Friends

This has actually been on my mind a lot lately. In life it’s inevitable that we grow apart from some of our close friends. That’s just the way life is. We either grow apart because of distance, you move away and keeping in touch is more difficult or the dynamics of the friendship changes because of that. Another scenario is that you grow apart because who each of you are is not the same as you used to be. Your personalities, preferences, likes, dislikes or priorities in life could have changed. While you lose friends you also gain friends. They come in all different shapes, sizes and most of all places. There are people who you are friends with at work and then they grow to be more than just people at work you talk to but people you hang out with outside of work. There are friends who randomly meet and as time goes on you realize there is more in common than you thought.

Another group are the ones that are your foundation. The ones you will always rely on and no matter what happens in life you know they are there for you for all the important things and maybe non-important thing as well, just someone to talk to.

What I am about to say next will definitely either ruffle some feathers with some people or you might completely agree with it. There are friends for a certain time and place in your life. When it’s done, it’s done. So the next time you see them, it is just awkward and you really wish you hadn’t seen them. There is no point, benefit or even good outcome that will come of it. Sure there are the good times but those are gone, seeing you now won’t bring them back. That is one reason I don’t like going to SB that much. I will bump into people that I know and it’s the typical pointless chit chat and awkward moments of ok what do we do now. If you can read this you are not one of those people so forget about it.

At times we are all selfish. That is just human nature. I get really upset when a two way friendship becomes one way. For a short period of time is fine but when I am only there to placate you and your desires then you just disappear, that sux. I always want to point people out who are like that and call their BS but I refrain b/c when I start being mean, there is no going back and I don’t like it when I get in that mood, I cause more harm than I intend to. If I am ever like that call me out, I’ll either change or tell you the real story, you just better be ready to handle the truth.

I guess the one category that really stands out for me are the ones who you expected to stop being friends for some of the reasons listed above but it never actually happened. You stayed being friends and things haven’t changed since then. No matter how much time passes since the last time you hung the next time is like there wasn’t that period of time. Those are the friendships that I enjoy the most.
There are people who I am thinking about in each paragraph……

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